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I’d promote the book, catch my breath, and then begin the 45 new adventure. 46 47 Thank god for those critical two weeks. 48 49 The night before book launch was (obviously) a frantic all-nighter, and I 50 eventually went to bed after 40 hours awake, exhausted and satisfied. We had 51 done it. The book was live. It was over. I’d actually wake up tomorrow without 52 this project hanging over my head. The sky would be blue. I’d finally be free. 53 54 I woke up close to noon and felt at peace for three seconds before opening my 55 phone and seeing three texts from my wife: 56 57 [34][01_water-broke] 58 59 Hm? 60 61 I knew what water breaking was. But I didn’t know what it meant. Is the baby 62 coming out now? Or was this one of the false alarms I had heard about and the 63 baby is still a couple weeks away? Is there a chance she just peed her pants 64 and is misdiagnosing the situation? 65 66 After some rapid-fire googling, one thing was clear: We had to go to the 67 hospital. Now. 68 69 The drive was weird. I had pictured myself heroically driving a screaming 70 labor-having wife to the hospital, but here I was driving normally to the 71 hospital with a very normal wife next to me. Apart from her new leaking 72 situation, nothing was different than it was yesterday. There was no way we 73 were actually having a baby today. Right? 74 75 Upon arrival, the PA assessed things and yes her water had broken, and yes in 76 order to avoid infection that meant the baby had to come out now. Two hours and 77 12 canceled book-promoting podcasts later, we’re in our delivery room, where my 78 still-not-in-labor wife would supposedly be producing a baby sometime later 79 today. 80 81 Again, there was a major expectations-reality gap. I had pictured the day of my 82 first child’s birth being impossibly frenetic and emotional and intense. But 83 there we were, eating animal crackers and gummies from the 84 treats-you-can-eat-while-in-labor bag, hanging out and chatting like any other 85 day. 86 87 My wife was hooked up to a bunch of tubes and machines and the plan was to see 88 if contractions would start on their own as a reaction to her water breaking, 89 but a few hours passed and nothing happened. Eventually, the nurse came in and 90 poured a magical little chemical called Pitocin into her IV bag. 91 92 And things started happening. 93 94 Contractions began, which my wife described as “a really bad period cramp,” 95 which helped me understand what they felt like 0%. Over the next couple hours 96 they got worse and worse. I was quickly assigned the role of “don’t say or do 97 anything” while contractions were happening, so I’d just kind of sit there 98 awkwardly and watch with this face on: 99 100 [02_em] 101 102 Her epidural plan was something like “definitely get one but tough it out a 103 little first,” and after a particularly awful contraction, she called it a day 104 and the epidural team came in to do their thing. 45 minutes later, we’re back 105 in the “I know this is the day of the birth of our first child but it sure 106 doesn’t feel like it” zone, chatting and hanging out normally. After a few more 107 hours, a nurse came in and checked on the dilation situation and was like 108 “alright, let’s do this!” 109 110 Once again, nothing like I pictured. I thought there would be a big team of 111 doctors and nurses doing a whole big hectic thing and I’d be standing somewhere 112 on the side. Instead, it was me and this nurse, each holding a leg. 113 114 [35][03_birth-1] 115 116 The game went like this: When a contraction starts, we each grab a leg and she 117 pushes really hard for 10 seconds three times in a row. Then everyone chills 118 and hangs out for a few minutes until the next contraction. And repeat. 119 120 After a few rounds of this, it was clear this was not gonna work. Nothing was 121 coming out. But we kept trying anyway. 122 123 And then I saw it. 124 125 The edge of an upsetting slimy pancake. 126 127 [36][04_birth-2] 128 129 When I asked what the upsetting slimy pancake edge was, the nurse told me it 130 was my daughter. 131 132 Uh huh. 133 134 This then went on for a while. We’d do a round of pushing, the upsetting 135 pancake thing would come out a centimeter and then go back in, and each round 136 it would come out a few more millimeters. It was increasingly feeling like we 137 really weren’t getting anywhere with this strategy when the nurse suddenly says 138 “okay let’s deliver a baby!” 139 140 She makes a call and a few minutes later a group of people come in, including 141 the first doctor we had seen that day. The next contraction came along, I 142 leg-held, my wife pushed, and then in the most surreal moment of my life, I was 143 staring at a tiny screaming alien. 144 145 [37][05_birth-3] 146 147 ___________ 148 149 That was 3 months ago. I’ve had a lot of thoughts since then. Here are 10 of 150 them: 151 152 1) A newborn is not a baby 153 154 I thought it was gonna be like this: 155 156 [38][06_fetus-baby-1] 157 158 But it’s actually like this: 159 160 [39][07_fetus-baby-2] 161 162 A newborn is not a baby. Babies are cute and roly-poly and can see and are 163 conscious and are normal and a newborn is not any of these things. It is a 164 bizarre human larva that [40]acts super weird and would still be in the womb if 165 it could be. The problem is, when humans went bipedal, our pelvises got 166 smaller, and as humans got smarter, our heads got bigger. So evolution had to 167 get creative. Its solution: all human babies would be premies, born when they 168 were still small enough to pass through a human pelvis. The last couple months 169 as a fetus would happen outside the womb, and everyone would just have to deal 170 with that. This became incredibly obvious during the first month with my 171 daughter. She was a raw human id not remotely ready for primetime. Thankfully, 172 since then, a baby has grown around the id and now she has the figure of a 173 miniature 390-pound 84-year-old woman.[41]1 174 175 2) It is insane that there’s not some required training for new-parents-to-be 176 177 If I want to drive a car, I have to take driver’s ed first. If I want to 178 provide medical advice, I have to go to med school first. But after we had the 179 baby, the hospital was like “don’t shake it k bye.” 180 181 I know a lot of words I didn’t used to know. Meconium. Tummy time. Latching. 182 Bicycling. Swaddle. Colostrum. I know how many ounces of milk and hours of 183 sleep the baby is supposed to have each day. I know baby CPR and the baby 184 Heimlich maneuver. I know how to induce baby burps and shits. I know how warmly 185 to dress a baby. I know what temperature baby bathwater should be. I know what 186 sleep training is and when it’s okay to start it. I know that you can’t just 187 pick a newborn up, you have to pick all the pieces up at the same time or else 188 the pieces fall off. 189 190 [08_pieces] 191 192 But I only know all of these things because I read books and articles and am 193 fortunate to have people I can call with questions. And society’s current plan 194 is to just expect/hope that every new parent does the same?? There should 195 obviously be like a mandatory four-hour course every expecting parent has to 196 take before they’re actually in charge of a newborn. 197 198 Instead, people like to say things like “you’ll figure it out” and “just use 199 your instincts.” You could apply the same logic to driving and people probably 200 would just figure it out—but we don’t do it that way, because that would be 201 absurd. 202 203 3) Babies have giant heads* 204 205 [42][09_heads-v2] 206 207 *I made this visual thinking it was gonna emphasize how big baby heads are, but 208 after looking at the big-headed guy on the right for a while, it started to 209 look normal to me, and the normal-headed guy suddenly looked like he had a 210 ridiculously small head. So now I’m realizing that the big takeaway is that 211 baby heads are normal and the rest of our heads are tiny. 212 213 4) Babies are incredibly overdramatic 214 215 When a normal person is hungry, or tired, or needs to burp, they’re a little 216 annoyed. Babies are in Shakespearean agony. And then comes the burp and one 217 second later they’re like “sup.” It’s insane behavior. 218 219 For a while, the range of baby emotion runs from Shakespearean agony to 220 neutral, never entering the positive realm. Neutral is a newborn’s best-case 221 scenario. 222 223 [43][10_agony] 224 225 After six weeks or so, positive emotion begins to make an appearance, but then 226 they still go apoplectic at the slightest inconvenience.[44]2 227 228 While we’re here, I know it’s bad but I can’t help it—crying babies are funny. 229 My wife completely disagrees with me on this. 230 231 [45][11_little-man] 232 233 5) The parent-newborn relationship is super one-sided 234 235 [46][12_one-sided] 236 237 It’s weird—you have all of these intense feelings for this little person* and 238 there’s just nothing to do with those feelings. I could squish her face, but 239 then she’d cry and I’d be abusing a baby. In the early weeks, there’s just not 240 really a satisfying outlet for your baby fondness and it’s annoying. 241 242 One other one-sided thing is you’re apparently supposed to talk to your newborn 243 even though they’re an unconscious fetus because it supposedly helps develop 244 their brain. So now my baby has heard multiple versions of my next book 245 outline, the full story of the rise and fall of the Assyrian Empire after I 246 listened to a podcast about it, and a list of every World Series champion going 247 back to 1990. Never once has the baby shown any sign of being affected by any 248 of this. 249 250 *That said, I’ve always thought of parental love as the most intense form of 251 love—the kind where if you had a Sophie’s choice where your baby and spouse 252 were both hanging off a cliff and you could only save one, you’d save the baby 253 without a second thought. And…yeah I’m not there yet. I love this little 254 creature a freakish amount, but as of now, I’m definitely saving my wife in 255 that situation. Sorry kiddo. I’m sure Tim the Baby-Saver-Wife-Dropper will at 256 some point emerge, but I guess it takes some time. 257 258 6) Babies shit all over your schedule 259 260 Obvious one, I know, but just check this out:[47]1 [48][13_sleep-graph-1] [49] 261 [14_sleep-graph-2] [50][15_sleep-graph-3-750x242] 262 263 These are the sleep graphs of three different babies, but they all have one 264 thing in common: there’s no rhyme or reason in the early months, because 265 newborns are dicks. 266 267 7) It’s mathematically impossible to know if your baby is cute or not 268 269 I think my baby is impossibly adorable, of course, but every parent thinks that 270 about their baby, so that offers no information. Everyone who has met her or 271 seen a picture of her has commented on how cute she is, but they’d say that no 272 matter what she looked like—which I know as someone who has commented on the 273 cuteness of babies ranging from perfect to hideous—so there’s no information 274 there either. FYI, I once depicted what happens when friends visit someone with 275 an uncute baby: 276 277 [51][16] [52][16] [53][16] [54][16] [55][16] 278 279 8) I’m a motor skills virtuoso 280 281 It’s pretty amazing how bad babies are at everything. They’re terrible at 282 thinking, at knowing anything, at moving all parts of their body. The cool 283 thing is that spending time with a super unimpressive baby has made me super 284 impressed by myself. Like I’ll watch the baby sitting in a [56]baby bouncer 285 trying to reach for a little wooden flower one foot in front of her and she 286 just flings her arm in the general direction and misses by a lot. Then I’ll 287 reach for a glass of water and all of my joints work together to send my hand 288 on a perfectly straight path through three-dimensional space, gracefully clasp 289 my fingers around it using the perfect amount of pressure, raise it to my 290 mouth, tilt it in perfect sync with the movement of my lips, and then return 291 the glass to the table and gently place it down like an absolute genius. 292 293 9) You don’t go from a non-parent to a parent overnight 294 295 Some things are just too big for our little human brains to fully absorb. The 296 bigness of the universe. The permanence of death. The magnitude of the [57] 297 marriage decision, which I [58]once described like this: 298 299 When you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your 300 parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your 301 eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 302 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career 303 therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times. Intense shit. 304 305 A few months into fatherhood, this feels like another item in that category. 306 When your baby is born, you will (hopefully) never live another day as a 307 non-parent. For people who make the decision to do this, it is the BC-AD line 308 of their life. It doesn’t mean you can’t still be you, but you are trading in 309 one kind of life for another, with all of the pros and cons that come along 310 with it. 311 312 I don’t think I’ve been able to quite wrap my head around the bigness of the 313 situation. A curious childless friend asked me the other day if I feel like a 314 dad, and I surprised myself by answering “not really.” I mostly feel like old 315 me that has this new delightful little thing living in my house. When I see 316 friends with sentient kids actually parenting them, saying things like “that’s 317 not nice, stop it,” whatever that must be like is as much of a mystery to me as 318 it was three months ago. For me at least, it seems like a parent is something 319 you slowly turn into as your first baby slowly turns into a person. 320 321 Btw I’m now even more convinced than I was before that this is the most 322 personal of personal decisions and no one should ever try to pressure anyone 323 else to have kids—it’s way too big a thing to be anyone else’s business. 324 325 10) Having a baby really makes you think about the future 326 327 Every parent in history has brought their baby into a world with an uncertain 328 future. But our future is the uncertainest. My baby might live a life a lot 329 like mine, just a little more futuristic. Or she might live to 500. She might 330 live most of her life with a [59]brain-machine interface implanted in her head, 331 thinking with her own superintelligent AI. She might suffer through 332 civilizational collapse. She might live in a world that would seem like utopia 333 to us today. She might live on Mars. She might meet aliens. She might die in 334 the apocalypse. There’s just no way to know. It makes all of those fun, 335 exciting, terrifying conversations about the future hit just a little harder. 336 337 [60][17_stars] 338 339 _______ 340 341 If you like Wait But Why, sign up for our [61]email list and we’ll send you new 342 posts when they come out. 343 344 To support Wait But Why, visit our [62]Patreon page. 345 346 _______ 347 348 More thoughts with comics: 349 [63]10 Types of Odd Friendships You’re Probably Part Of 350 [64]The Great Perils of Social Interaction 351 [65]11 Awkward Things About Email 352 353 If you can’t decide whether to marry your significant other: [66]The Marriage 354 Decision: Everything Forever or Nothing Ever Again 355 356 If you’re hearing everyone talk about AI and would like an overview: [67]The AI 357 Revolution: The Road to Superintelligence 358 359 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 360 361 1. One thing I kept thinking during the first few weeks: it’s really weird 362 that Einstein and Hitler and Shaq and Plato and Queen Elizabeth were all 363 wiggly, flailing little aliens at one point.[68]↩ 364 365 2. Speaking of which, companies that make onesies that snap instead of zipper 366 should be sent to the gulag.[69]↩ 367 368 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 369 370 1. 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