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Daily notes for 2023-07-17
Daily notes for 2023-07-17
Jul 17, 2023 · 1447 words · 7 minute read
Jul 17, 2023 · 1447 words · 7 minute read
Table of Contents
Table of Contents
* [5]Notes on conflict
* [6]The INT650
• [5]Notes on conflict
• [6]The INT650
Notes on conflict [7]🔗
When my master and I were walking in the rain, he would say, “Do not
walk so fast, the rain is everywhere.”
—Shunryu Suzuki
When my master and I were walking in the rain, he would say, “Do not walk
so fast, the rain is everywhere.”
—Shunryu Suzuki
For a very long time — too much of my life — I thought conflict was a
sign that there was a problem. I didn’t like disagreeing with people
about much of anything. I’m using “conflict” in a broad sense: Over
resources, points of view, vision, beliefs, tastes.
For a very long time — too much of my life — I thought conflict was a sign that
there was a problem. I didn’t like disagreeing with people about much of
anything. I’m using “conflict” in a broad sense: Over resources, points of
view, vision, beliefs, tastes.
Over time I shifted on the matter a little, but when I look back on it
I realize I wasn’t really evolving my attitude toward conflict, I was
just evolving my response to its existence, while still believing that
being in a state of conflict is a problem. I just got better at keeping
my blood pressure low and gritting through it. I think I was looking at
conflict as a thing that you have to acknowledge exists, but that you
need to get through as quickly as possible, because it’s a bad place to
be.
Over time I shifted on the matter a little, but when I look back on it I
realize I wasn’t really evolving my attitude toward conflict, I was just
evolving my response to its existence, while still believing that being in a
state of conflict is a problem. I just got better at keeping my blood pressure
low and gritting through it. I think I was looking at conflict as a thing that
you have to acknowledge exists, but that you need to get through as quickly as
possible, because it’s a bad place to be.
That attitude created some problems:
* When you’re bad at being in conflict, you’re at a disadvantage with
people who are good at it and mean you harm; and you’re annoying
people who are good at it and mean you no harm.
* When you look at conflict as a thing to grit through and end
quickly it’s hard to maintain your integrity. (See above: The
people who don’t want what’s best for you (or the business, or the
world, or etc.) understand this, and the ones who are really good
at it and a little indifferent toward what’s best for you are
counting on you to do all the work to get out of conflict.)
* When you’d rather do anything than admit that you’re in a state of
conflict, you will eventually do something about your problem that
is less skillful for having waited than if you’d admitted it to
yourself (and whoever you’re in conflict with) sooner. Or, as one
of my past managers put it to me, “don’t be that guy who
hockey-sticks.” (I nodded then kind of hockey-sticked.)
* When you’re bad at being in conflict, and you’re willing to be set
aside your integrity or do other things to get out of it quickly,
you’ll eventually get tired of “losing” and figure out ways to
“win” that cause others to see you as, at best, baffling and
frustrating, and at worst Machiavellian and treacherous.
That attitude created some problems:
That, anyhow, is a rough categorization of my many hundreds of
mishandlings of conflict. Maybe the most interesting thing to me about
all those mishandlings is that over time I managed to convince myself
that failing to be in conflict well was a sign of virtue. Moral
sophistication. “Taking the high road.” “Not worth the stress.”
“Learning how to play the game.” “Protecting the team.”
• When you’re bad at being in conflict, you’re at a disadvantage with people
who are good at it and mean you harm; and you’re annoying people who are
good at it and mean you no harm.
• When you look at conflict as a thing to grit through and end quickly it’s
hard to maintain your integrity. (See above: The people who don’t want
what’s best for you (or the business, or the world, or etc.) understand
this, and the ones who are really good at it and a little indifferent
toward what’s best for you are counting on you to do all the work to get
out of conflict.)
• When you’d rather do anything than admit that you’re in a state of
conflict, you will eventually do something about your problem that is less
skillful for having waited than if you’d admitted it to yourself (and
whoever you’re in conflict with) sooner. Or, as one of my past managers put
it to me, “don’t be that guy who hockey-sticks.” (I nodded then kind of
hockey-sticked.)
• When you’re bad at being in conflict, and you’re willing to be set aside
your integrity or do other things to get out of it quickly, you’ll
eventually get tired of “losing” and figure out ways to “win” that cause
others to see you as, at best, baffling and frustrating, and at worst
Machiavellian and treacherous.
Over the past few years, I’ve changed on the matter: On balance, I
definitely don’t think its existence is a sign there’s a problem. It’s
just a sign that there’s a conflict.
That, anyhow, is a rough categorization of my many hundreds of mishandlings of
conflict. Maybe the most interesting thing to me about all those mishandlings
is that over time I managed to convince myself that failing to be in conflict
well was a sign of virtue. Moral sophistication. “Taking the high road.” “Not
worth the stress.” “Learning how to play the game.” “Protecting the team.”
I still feel a little cautious about conflict when I don’t know the
person I’m in conflict with very well. Caution is useful, because
people who are bad at being in conflict but mean well — people who are
“good eggs” — can still sort of mess things up, because if I have to
bet on whether someone hates “losing” or just grinning and bearing it
more, my money is on them hating losing more. When things get to a
place where it feels existential to them, even good eggs can act sort
of rotten. So you have to take time and attend to the interaction so
they can be in conflict and feel safe about it.
Over the past few years, I’ve changed on the matter: On balance, I definitely
don’t think its existence is a sign there’s a problem. It’s just a sign that
there’s a conflict.
I still think I have a responsibility to introduce the existence of
conflict with kindness, or receive the news that I’ve entered into a
state of conflict in a manner that invites a full airing. “Relaxed and
possibly delighted curiosity,” I suppose I’d call it, rather than a
furrowing of the brow and assurances that I want to restore harmony at
once. Because I don’t want to restore harmony at once. I want to
understand why we want different things, then figure out how we can
both behave with integrity while we sort that out.
I still feel a little cautious about conflict when I don’t know the person I’m
in conflict with very well. Caution is useful, because people who are bad at
being in conflict but mean well — people who are “good eggs” — can still sort
of mess things up, because if I have to bet on whether someone hates “losing”
or just grinning and bearing it more, my money is on them hating losing more.
When things get to a place where it feels existential to them, even good eggs
can act sort of rotten. So you have to take time and attend to the interaction
so they can be in conflict and feel safe about it.
I still think I have a responsibility to introduce the existence of conflict
with kindness, or receive the news that I’ve entered into a state of conflict
in a manner that invites a full airing. “Relaxed and possibly delighted
curiosity,” I suppose I’d call it, rather than a furrowing of the brow and
assurances that I want to restore harmony at once. Because I don’t want to
restore harmony at once. I want to understand why we want different things,
then figure out how we can both behave with integrity while we sort that out.
The INT650 [8]🔗
I finally quit waffling on what to do with the Royal Enfield Himalayan.
I took it up to [9]Sabatino Moto in St. Johns and traded it in for
another Royal Enfield: An INT650 (“Interceptor” everywhere else in the
world, but not in North America where Honda owns the rights to the
name.)
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It’s a pretty night and day difference. The Himalayan is a mountain
goat, and the INT650 is … something a little prettier and a little less
rough. I was never going to ride the Himalayan the way it was meant to
be ridden — fire roads, gravel, dirt — and I didn’t have the patience
for the very “work in progress” attitude Royal Enfield took toward it.
One thing you learn from all the Himalayan videos on YouTube is that
the people who love them best don’t mind fiddling, tweaking, and
wrenching. After reading hundreds of owners talk about their
experiences, I have come to realize I lost the factory QA lottery on
mine, and that engendered a lack of confidence in it that I never
recovered from.
I finally quit waffling on what to do with the Royal Enfield Himalayan. I took
it up to [9]Sabatino Moto in St. Johns and traded it in for another Royal
Enfield: An INT650 (“Interceptor” everywhere else in the world, but not in
North America where Honda owns the rights to the name.)
Also turns out, I think, that I had a bad dealer:
It’s a pretty night and day difference. The Himalayan is a mountain goat, and
the INT650 is … something a little prettier and a little less rough. I was
never going to ride the Himalayan the way it was meant to be ridden — fire
roads, gravel, dirt — and I didn’t have the patience for the very “work in
progress” attitude Royal Enfield took toward it. One thing you learn from all
the Himalayan videos on YouTube is that the people who love them best don’t
mind fiddling, tweaking, and wrenching. After reading hundreds of owners talk
about their experiences, I have come to realize I lost the factory QA lottery
on mine, and that engendered a lack of confidence in it that I never recovered
from.
The first RE dealer in the Portland area doesn’t really want to sell
them, and it really does not want to do anything other than the most
basic service. I think I’ve documented that elsewhere, so I won’t go
into it more here, but I’ll just offer the observation that RE’s
strategy of linking up with Harley dealers to build out its US
distribution network did its customers no favors.
Also turns out, I think, that I had a bad dealer:
The folks at Sabatino, on the other hand, seem to have a genuine
appreciation for the bikes, that extends all the way to acknowledging
that RE has some QA challenges. Sabatino addresses that by doing their
own QA when they uncrate a new bike. And they’re willing to talk about
the ups and downs of each model. My head was briefly turned by another
model, and I got a reasoned, balanced, discussion of why maybe that one
wouldn’t work for me.
The first RE dealer in the Portland area doesn’t really want to sell them, and
it really does not want to do anything other than the most basic service. I
think I’ve documented that elsewhere, so I won’t go into it more here, but I’ll
just offer the observation that RE’s strategy of linking up with Harley dealers
to build out its US distribution network did its customers no favors.
They also offer test rides. I can name one dealership that grudgingly
made me sign a waiver and write a check for the full amount to test
ride a Grom for five laps around their parking lot, and they only did
that because it was a two-year-old model and they’d sold the newer one
they promised me out from under me. Sabatino made me do the waiver,
share my insurance information, and hand over my license, but then they
tossed me the keys and told me they’d see me when they saw me.
The folks at Sabatino, on the other hand, seem to have a genuine appreciation
for the bikes, that extends all the way to acknowledging that RE has some QA
challenges. Sabatino addresses that by doing their own QA when they uncrate a
new bike. And they’re willing to talk about the ups and downs of each model. My
head was briefly turned by another model, and I got a reasoned, balanced,
discussion of why maybe that one wouldn’t work for me.
Anyhow, the test ride sold me. I’ve been through several configurations
of motorcycle and scooter since getting my motorcycle endorsement —
maxiscoots, normal scoots, mini-moto, cruiser, trail bike, dual-sport —
and none of them have been the thing I first imagined myself riding
when I finally decided to learn how to ride. Well, learn how to ride as
an adult, anyhow. The twin 650 runs and sounds nice, the bike handles
more comfortably than the Himalayan despite there being 40 pounds more
of it, and the super-simple analog speedo and tach are just sort of
pleasant. I ran it around St. Johns for a while, was struck by how
immediately comfortable it was (and how confident I felt on it), and
that was that.
They also offer test rides. I can name one dealership that grudgingly made me
sign a waiver and write a check for the full amount to test ride a Grom for
five laps around their parking lot, and they only did that because it was a
two-year-old model and they’d sold the newer one they promised me out from
under me. Sabatino made me do the waiver, share my insurance information, and
hand over my license, but then they tossed me the keys and told me they’d see
me when they saw me.
Yesterday I took it on a ride out Foster Road toward Damascus. There’s
a side road I head out onto that eventually rejoins on the other side
of Damascus, close to a back road that joins the highway down to
Estacada. So I headed out past Estacada, to see how it did on a small
back highway. There was a little bit of buffeting — no fairings — but
it ran and handled well. I felt more confident on the little back roads
coming back than I did heading out as I got to know the bike better. I
did decide to detract from its vintage purity a little by ordering a
Dart flyscreen when I got back: People say it helps clean up the
turbulence at highway speeds, and keeps the bugs off the pretty silver
cans.
Anyhow, the test ride sold me. I’ve been through several configurations of
motorcycle and scooter since getting my motorcycle endorsement — maxiscoots,
normal scoots, mini-moto, cruiser, trail bike, dual-sport — and none of them
have been the thing I first imagined myself riding when I finally decided to
learn how to ride. Well, learn how to ride as an adult, anyhow. The twin 650
runs and sounds nice, the bike handles more comfortably than the Himalayan
despite there being 40 pounds more of it, and the super-simple analog speedo
and tach are just sort of pleasant. I ran it around St. Johns for a while, was
struck by how immediately comfortable it was (and how confident I felt on it),
and that was that.
Anyhow, glad I’ve got it in the driveway with so much of the riding
season left, and I can wholeheartedly recommend Sabatino Moto if you’re
looking to buy one for yourself.
Yesterday I took it on a ride out Foster Road toward Damascus. There’s a side
road I head out onto that eventually rejoins on the other side of Damascus,
close to a back road that joins the highway down to Estacada. So I headed out
past Estacada, to see how it did on a small back highway. There was a little
bit of buffeting — no fairings — but it ran and handled well. I felt more
confident on the little back roads coming back than I did heading out as I got
to know the bike better. I did decide to detract from its vintage purity a
little by ordering a Dart flyscreen when I got back: People say it helps clean
up the turbulence at highway speeds, and keeps the bugs off the pretty silver
cans.
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Anyhow, glad I’ve got it in the driveway with so much of the riding season
left, and I can wholeheartedly recommend Sabatino Moto if you’re looking to buy
one for yourself.
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