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[1]Austin Kleon
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• [2]Blog
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You are here: [10]Blog / [11]Miscellany / Give yourself what you needed then
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and give your kids what they need now
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Give yourself what you needed then and give your kids what they need now
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Thursday, April 1, 2021
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[12][immutable]
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One of my very favorite lines about being a parent comes from Andrew Solomon’s
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[13]Far From The Tree: “Perhaps the immutable error of parenthood is that we
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give our children what we wanted, whether they want it or not.”
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So I was primed for the punch of [14]this thread from Tiersa McQueen ([15]
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@tiersaj):
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[16][tiersa]
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Carl Jung said that nothing had a bigger influence on the child than the
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unlived life of the parent. Those unlived lives linger. (I am struck often by
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how many artists are raised by people who didn’t fulfill their own artistic
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ambitions. Most recently, Twyla Tharp, in [17]Twlya Moves, talking about her
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mother, who was a pianist, and groomed her daughter for a life in the arts,
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driving her all over Indiana for lessons, etc.)
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[18][IMG_0051-768x576-1-600x450]
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One must be careful to not transfer unwanted dreams onto their children, maybe
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even more so when your children are inclined to doing the things you, too,
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love. (One of my sons loves music and video games, the other loves stories and
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drawing. You can imagine the dreams I have for them, dreams that I find it best
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to keep to myself.)
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It’s a dance. You have to give yourself what you needed, but give your kids
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what they need now. Build the world you always wanted, but make sure there’s
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room in it for the world they want, too.
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(And know it will change and be constantly in flux, day by day.)
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Filed Under: [19]Miscellany Tagged: [20]Andrew solomon, [21]carl jung, [22]ed
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emberley, [23]parenting, [24]Tiersa mcqueen, [25]unschooling
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About the author
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[28]Austin Kleon
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[29]Austin Kleon is a writer who draws. He’s the bestselling author of [30]
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Steal Like An Artist and other books. [31]Read more→
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