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Brett & Kate McKay • September 5, 2023 • Last updated: September 9, 2023
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Exit, Voice, Loyalty, Neglect: Why People Leave, Stay, or Try to Burn It All
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Down
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[evln]
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[169] [170] [171] [172] [173]
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When someone is dissatisfied with a product, group, or relationship, how do
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they remedy that dissatisfaction?
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A German economist and political scientist, Albert Hirschman, laid out a theory
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of how people respond to dissatisfaction in his influential treatise [174]Exit,
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Voice, Loyalty: Responses to Decline in Firms, Organizations, and States.
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Hirschman observed that people who find themselves in diminishing,
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less-than-ideal circumstances have three options: 1) leave the declining group,
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company, or relationship (exit), 2) express discontent to improve the situation
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(voice), or 3) stay in the organization and passively hope things get better
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(loyalty).
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Since the initial publication of Exit, Voice, Loyalty in 1970, other social
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scientists have added a fourth option to Hirschman’s framework: neglect.
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Which option a person exercises will depend on many factors, and the path they
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choose can help reverse, stem, or exacerbate a group’s deterioration.
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The exit, voice, loyalty, neglect (EVLN) framework will help you understand why
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people stay in or leave a relationship (including friendships), why people stay
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in or leave a job, why people stay in or leave a church, and many more of
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life’s interpersonal and institutional dynamics.
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Let’s unpack it.
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Exit, Voice, Loyalty, Neglect
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I read Hirschman’s book a few months ago and went on a deep dive into related
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research that’s been done since it was published. The EVLN framework has become
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a fundamental mental model in my brain. It’s a decidedly simple paradigm and is
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something people already intuitively know, but once you see it spelled out
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explicitly, you start to see it everywhere.
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Exit
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The exit option is exercised when an individual is dissatisfied with something
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and decides to quit it altogether.
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You use the exit option all the time as a consumer. If you’re dissatisfied with
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shaving cream brand A, you stop using it and start using shaving cream brand
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B.
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You can also use the exit option when dissatisfied with a job, relationship, or
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group.
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Not happy with your job? You can quit it.
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Not happy with your relationship? You can break up.
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Not happy with the state of your congregation? You can stop going to that
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church and start going to another.
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What’s interesting about the exit option is that it often accelerates decline
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in groups. According to Hirschman, the people most sensitive to a decrease in
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quality are typically those with the most resources, skills, and talents that
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could be used to effectuate improvement. The people who are the least sensitive
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to quality usually have fewer resources, skills, and talents. When the people
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who have resources leave, it results in a “brain drain.” With fewer
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well-resourced members, the quality of the group further declines; it thus has
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even more trouble attracting new members (especially well-resourced ones); as a
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result, even more people leave. Things go from bad to worse, and the group or
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organization enters a death spiral that can be difficult or impossible to
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recover from.
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To illustrate this phenomenon, Hirschman uses the example of parents pulling
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their kids out of public schools and putting them into private schools.
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According to Hirschman, affluent parents are much more sensitive to education
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quality than less affluent parents. It’s not that less affluent parents don’t
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care about their children’s education; they just don’t have the luxury of being
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hyper-sensitive to deficits in quality. Because they know that private school
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isn’t an option for them, they don’t spend as much time wondering if the grass
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is greener at another school as affluent parents do.
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Because school is a matter of optionality for wealthy parents, they notice
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perceived flaws in their children’s education more acutely. If these parents
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become dissatisfied with the education being offered in a public school,
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they’ll switch their child over to a private school. When these affluent
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families leave a public school, they take their resources, and their possibly
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greater propensity to push for improvement, with them. As a result, the
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struggles of the public school deepen.
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Voice
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Sometimes people find themselves in a situation where they’re dissatisfied with
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a group or relationship, but they don’t want to leave it. They still see good
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in it. It’s still working for them on some level, or they see potential for how
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it could work if things were done differently. They may feel they can do more
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good being an agent on the inside than being a critic on the outside.
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In these cases, people may decide to stay around and exercise the voice option
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— complaining, offering feedback, and agitating for change to improve things.
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An unhappy employee can talk to his boss about changing the company’s culture.
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An unhappy husband can tell his wife about his concerns for the relationship,
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or together they can talk to a therapist.
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An unhappy customer can contact customer support to raise concerns and seek
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redress.
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Unhappy parents can talk to their child’s teacher about an issue with their kid
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or join the PTA to advocate for broader changes.
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Loyalty
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While Hirschman clearly defined exit and voice, he was ambiguous about loyalty.
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It’s one of the biggest criticisms he received for his work. Many social
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scientists since Hirschman have described loyalty as a “passively positive”
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response in the face of dissatisfaction. Instead of taking action (exit or
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voice), the loyal customer, employee, spouse, or church member will stay aboard
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and not raise a stink, hoping things will get better on their own if they wait
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long enough.
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Take an employee dissatisfied with his job. Maybe he’s decided he can’t quit,
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and perhaps he’s also decided that voicing his concerns to his boss will only
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increase the animosity between them. So he chooses to stay with the company,
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thinking, “Well, maybe things will improve. Maybe we’ll get a new supervisor.
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Maybe I’ll get moved to a new division. I’ll just keep working and wait and
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see.”
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Neglect
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Social scientist [175]Carly Rusbult added a fourth option to Hirschman’s exit/
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voice/loyalty options for dealing with dissatisfaction: neglect.
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Neglect is similar to loyalty in that the dissatisfied person decides to stay
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on board with the declining job, relationship, or group, but instead of
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thinking things might improve if they’re patient, the person who adopts the
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neglect option has decided things won’t get better and chooses to take a
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“negative passive” approach to the situation by putting in less effort or not
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taking action to prevent the relationship or group from further falling apart.
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Rather than helping an ineffectual organization continue to limp feebly along,
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this individual stays but withdraws their support, with the idea that by
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letting the group collapse, its leadership will finally be forced to take
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action to change and improve it. The neglect approach is: “I’m not going to
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actively put out fires. I’m just going to let this thing burn to the ground so
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we can start fresh.”
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Consider the overworked church member in a struggling congregation. He’s
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juggling multiple roles and dealing with a cadre of difficult people. Leaving
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isn’t an option because his wife grew up in that church and would never
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consider it. He knows raising his concerns to leadership would be ineffective
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because he tried that in the past. So exit and voice are off the table.
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He also doesn’t think things will get better if he sticks around and just keeps
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plugging away. Goodbye loyalty.
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Hello, neglect.
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This burned-out church member may start doing the bare minimum in his
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responsibilities, if that. He’ll say no to requests for his time, money, and
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talent. If he sees an issue or problem, he won’t do anything to correct it. He
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thinks that those who remain loyal are only perpetuating a state of
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dysfunction. By withholding his help, he hopes to push the congregation to a
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critical level of failure, which will require the leadership to fix the
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underlying issues.
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Predictors of Response to Dissatisfaction
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So, in the face of dissatisfaction, people can respond with exit, voice,
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loyalty, or neglect.
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A person in declining circumstances conducts an explicit or implicit cost/
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benefit analysis in figuring out which path to take.
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In [176]Predicting Exit, Voice, Loyalty, and Neglect, researchers Michael
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Withey and William Cooper fleshed out the factors that go into this analysis
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when people consider how to respond to dissatisfaction:
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Cost of the Action
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Exit, voice, loyalty, and neglect all come with costs, both direct and
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indirect.
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Exiting a job can result in the loss of income and health benefits; divorcing a
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spouse can result in emotional and financial distress; leaving a church can
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result in spiritual and social isolation.
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Raising your voice at work could create rancor with your boss; speaking up in a
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marriage could create resentment with your spouse.
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Whether you’re exiting or using your voice, there can also be a loss in the
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thing humans hold most dear: status. In leaving or dissenting, you risk
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jeopardizing your identity.
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Staying loyal to a relationship or organization comes with costs, too. If you
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keep your job in a toxic office, you’ll have to continue to weather the stress
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and debasement that comes with going to work each day. Same thing with staying
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in a struggling, conflict-ridden marriage or church.
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If you decide to be neglectful in your job, it could result in discipline or
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blocked opportunities. Neglect in a marriage will only lead to increased
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resentment and tension.
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The exit option tends to have the most dramatic consequences, and is thus much
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more reluctantly exercised and typically used as a last resort.
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But there’s no option in the EVLN framework that doesn’t carry downsides; each
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has its own pros and cons, and part of how people weigh their choices comes
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down to which path they think has more of the former and less of the latter.
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Efficacy of the Response
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In deciding between exit, voice, loyalty, and neglect, people will also
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consider which response will be the most effective at resolving their
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dissatisfaction.
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A big factor in whether someone thinks a particular response will be effective
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is whether they believe there’s hope for improvement. If someone has this hope,
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they’re more likely to choose voice or loyalty; if they don’t, they’re more
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likely to choose exit or neglect. If an unhappy employee thinks things would be
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a lot better at work if their supervisor moved on, and there’s a rumor they’ll
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soon be replaced, the employee is more likely to stick around. If a church
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member thinks their concerns will be listened to and addressed, they’re more
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likely to stay and raise their voice; if they think their concerns will be
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dismissed, they’re more likely to leave.
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A significant element in whether someone has hope for a better future is their
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prior satisfaction with the group or relationship. If someone’s marriage is
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struggling now, but was great for the first decade, they’re more apt to keep
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working on it and believe there’s a chance of returning to those happier times.
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If someone’s marriage was rocky from the start, they’re more likely to choose
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divorce.
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Internal vs. External Locus of Control
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If an individual has an internal locus of control, they’re more likely to
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choose a response that’s proactive. That is, if they believe they have control
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over their actions and outcomes, they’re more likely to use voice or exit.
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Someone who has an external locus of control — a belief that their life is
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controlled by external circumstances — is more likely to passively endure a bad
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situation (loyalty or neglect).
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Attractiveness of Alternatives
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If someone feels like there are better options outside their current job/
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relationship/church, they’re more likely to leave.
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If someone’s in a job they dislike and has been fielding hiring interest from
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another employer, they’re more likely to quit.
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If, on the other hand, someone feels they won’t be able to do much better in an
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alternate situation, they’re more likely to exercise the options of voice,
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loyalty, and neglect.
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An individual who’s sixty and in a so-so marriage may not feel bullish about
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their prospects of finding another partner and decide they’d rather be with
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someone, anyone, than alone.
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Commitment
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The decision to go, stay, or otherwise is also rooted in one’s inner values.
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Someone in an unhappy marriage who’s deeply committed to the sanctity of the
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marriage vow is more likely to choose therapy over divorce.
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Someone who is disturbed by recent trends in their church but deeply believes
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in the tenets of their faith is more likely to stay than exit.
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Someone who prizes loyalty will stay longer in a job they dislike than someone
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who doesn’t.
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Will Someone Choose Exit, Voice, Loyalty, or Neglect?
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In a series of studies, Withey and Cooper used the above factors to create a
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rubric that helps predict which response a dissatisfied employee will use. It
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likely carries over to people dissatisfied with other situations as well:
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Exit More Likely When:
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• costs of exit are low
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• costs of voice are high
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• prior satisfaction is low
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• belief in improvement is low
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• commitment is low
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• attractive alternatives are available
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• individual has an internal locus of control
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Voice More Likely When:
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• costs of exit are high
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• costs of voice are low
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• prior satisfaction is high
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• belief in improvement is high
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• commitment is high
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• attractive alternatives are not available
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• individual has an internal locus of control
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Loyalty More Likely When:
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• costs of exit are high
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• costs of voice are high
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• prior satisfaction is high
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• belief in the likelihood of improvement is high
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• commitment is high
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• attractive alternatives are not available
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• individual has an external locus of control
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Neglect More Likely When:
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• costs of exit are high
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• costs of voice are high
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• prior satisfaction is low
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• belief in the likelihood of improvement is low
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• commitment is low
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• attractive alternatives are not available
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• individual has an external locus of control
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Something that Withey and Cooper didn’t explore, but Hirschman did, is the
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phenomenon of people who exercise the option of exit and voice.
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Hirschman argued that you see people use both exit and voice in situations
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where even if they leave a group due to dissatisfaction, they’re still affected
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by the group’s actions.
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You see this phenomenon with people who become disaffected with a church or
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religion. They may leave a faith, but they still have friends and family
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members who belong to it. Because the disaffected individual still interacts
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with these people, whose faith informs these interactions, the disaffected
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person is still impacted by the faith, even if they no longer practice it. At
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the same time, an individual who leaves a religion may feel that the religion
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damaged them somehow, and, though they have removed themselves from its direct
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influence, they don’t want to see other people get hurt in the same way.
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Consequently, people who leave a religion sometimes become its most vocal
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critics.
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Conclusion
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As I mentioned at the start, once I learned about the exit, voice, loyalty, and
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neglect paradigm, I started to see it everywhere. If you’re a business owner,
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it can help explain why customers react to a dissatisfying experience the way
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they do. If you’re in a bad relationship, it can help you think about what
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action you want to take. If you’re a leader in a church, it can help you figure
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out why some people leave your congregation while others stick around.
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It can also help you understand why struggling groups often continue to
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struggle: If a group loses enough good people, it’s apt to enter a death
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spiral.
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