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Brett & Kate McKay • September 5, 2023
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Exit, Voice, Loyalty, Neglect: Why People Leave, Stay, or Try to Burn It All
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Down
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When someone is dissatisfied with a product, group, or relationship,
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how do they remedy that dissatisfaction?
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A German economist and political scientist, Albert Hirschman, laid out
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a theory of how people respond to dissatisfaction in his influential
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treatise [108]Exit, Voice, Loyalty: Responses to Decline in Firms,
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Organizations, and States.
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Hirschman observed that people who find themselves in diminishing,
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less-than-ideal circumstances have three options: 1) leave the
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declining group, company, or relationship (exit), 2) express discontent
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to improve the situation (voice), or 3) stay in the organization and
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passively hope things get better (loyalty).
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Since the initial publication of Exit, Voice, Loyalty in 1970, other
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social scientists have added a fourth option to Hirschman’s framework:
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neglect.
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Which option a person exercises will depend on many factors, and the
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path they choose can help reverse, stem, or exacerbate a group’s
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deterioration.
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The exit, voice, loyalty, neglect (EVLN) framework will help you
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understand why people stay in or leave a relationship (including
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friendships), why people stay in or leave a job, why people stay in or
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leave a church, and many more of life’s interpersonal and institutional
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dynamics.
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Let’s unpack it.
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Exit, Voice, Loyalty, Neglect
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I read Hirschman’s book a few months ago and went on a deep dive into
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related research that’s been done since it was published. The EVLN
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framework has become a fundamental mental model in my brain. It’s a
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decidedly simple paradigm and is something people already intuitively
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know, but once you see it spelled out explicitly, you start to see it
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everywhere.
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Exit
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The exit option is exercised when an individual is dissatisfied with
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something and decides to quit it altogether.
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You use the exit option all the time as a consumer. If you’re
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dissatisfied with shaving cream brand A, you stop using it and start
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using shaving cream brand B.
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You can also use the exit option when dissatisfied with a job,
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relationship, or group.
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Not happy with your job? You can quit it.
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Not happy with your relationship? You can break up.
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Not happy with the state of your congregation? You can stop going to
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that church and start going to another.
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What’s interesting about the exit option is that it often accelerates
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decline in groups. According to Hirschman, the people most sensitive to
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a decrease in quality are typically those with the most resources,
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skills, and talents that could be used to effectuate improvement. The
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people who are the least sensitive to quality usually have fewer
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resources, skills, and talents. When the people who have resources
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leave, it results in a “brain drain.” With fewer well-resourced
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members, the quality of the group further declines; it thus has even
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more trouble attracting new members (especially well-resourced ones);
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as a result, even more people leave. Things go from bad to worse, and
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the group or organization enters a death spiral that can be difficult
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or impossible to recover from.
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To illustrate this phenomenon, Hirschman uses the example of parents
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pulling their kids out of public schools and putting them into private
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schools. According to Hirschman, affluent parents are much more
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sensitive to education quality than less affluent parents. It’s not
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that less affluent parents don’t care about their children’s education;
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they just don’t have the luxury of being hyper-sensitive to deficits in
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quality. Because they know that private school isn’t an option for
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them, they don’t spend as much time wondering if the grass is greener
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at another school as affluent parents do.
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Because school is a matter of optionality for wealthy parents, they
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notice perceived flaws in their children’s education more acutely. If
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these parents become dissatisfied with the education being offered in a
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public school, they’ll switch their child over to a private school.
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When these affluent families leave a public school, they take their
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resources, and their possibly greater propensity to push for
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improvement, with them. As a result, the struggles of the public school
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deepen.
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Voice
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Sometimes people find themselves in a situation where they’re
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dissatisfied with a group or relationship, but they don’t want to leave
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it. They still see good in it. It’s still working for them on some
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level, or they see potential for how it could work if things were done
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differently. They may feel they can do more good being an agent on the
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inside than being a critic on the outside.
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In these cases, people may decide to stay around and exercise the voice
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option — complaining, offering feedback, and agitating for change to
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improve things.
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An unhappy employee can talk to his boss about changing the company’s
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culture.
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An unhappy husband can tell his wife about his concerns for the
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relationship, or together they can talk to a therapist.
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An unhappy customer can contact customer support to raise concerns and
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seek redress.
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Unhappy parents can talk to their child’s teacher about an issue with
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their kid or join the PTA to advocate for broader changes.
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Loyalty
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While Hirschman clearly defined exit and voice, he was ambiguous about
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loyalty. It’s one of the biggest criticisms he received for his work.
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Many social scientists since Hirschman have described loyalty as a
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“passively positive” response in the face of dissatisfaction. Instead
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of taking action (exit or voice), the loyal customer, employee, spouse,
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or church member will stay aboard and not raise a stink, hoping things
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will get better on their own if they wait long enough.
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Take an employee dissatisfied with his job. Maybe he’s decided he can’t
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quit, and perhaps he’s also decided that voicing his concerns to his
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boss will only increase the animosity between them. So he chooses to
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stay with the company, thinking, “Well, maybe things will improve.
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Maybe we’ll get a new supervisor. Maybe I’ll get moved to a new
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division. I’ll just keep working and wait and see.”
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Neglect
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Social scientist [109]Carly Rusbult added a fourth option to
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Hirschman’s exit/voice/loyalty options for dealing with
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dissatisfaction: neglect.
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Neglect is similar to loyalty in that the dissatisfied person decides
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to stay on board with the declining job, relationship, or group, but
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instead of thinking things might improve if they’re patient, the person
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who adopts the neglect option has decided things won’t get better and
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chooses to take a “negative passive” approach to the situation by
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putting in less effort or not taking action to prevent the relationship
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or group from further falling apart.
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Rather than helping an ineffectual organization continue to limp feebly
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along, this individual stays but withdraws their support, with the idea
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that by letting the group collapse, its leadership will finally be
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forced to take action to change and improve it. The neglect approach
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is: “I’m not going to actively put out fires. I’m just going to let
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this thing burn to the ground so we can start fresh.”
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Consider the overworked church member in a struggling congregation.
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He’s juggling multiple roles and dealing with a cadre of difficult
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people. Leaving isn’t an option because his wife grew up in that church
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and would never consider it. He knows raising his concerns to
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leadership would be ineffective because he tried that in the past. So
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exit and voice are off the table.
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He also doesn’t think things will get better if he sticks around and
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just keeps plugging away. Goodbye loyalty.
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Hello, neglect.
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This burned-out church member may start doing the bare minimum in his
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responsibilities, if that. He’ll say no to requests for his time,
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money, and talent. If he sees an issue or problem, he won’t do anything
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to correct it. He thinks that those who remain loyal are only
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perpetuating a state of dysfunction. By withholding his help, he hopes
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to push the congregation to a critical level of failure, which will
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require the leadership to fix the underlying issues.
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Predictors of Response to Dissatisfaction
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So, in the face of dissatisfaction, people can respond with exit,
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voice, loyalty, or neglect.
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A person in declining circumstances conducts an explicit or implicit
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cost/benefit analysis in figuring out which path to take.
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In [110]Predicting Exit, Voice, Loyalty, and Neglect, researchers
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Michael Withey and William Cooper fleshed out the factors that go into
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this analysis when people consider how to respond to dissatisfaction:
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Cost of the Action
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Exit, voice, loyalty, and neglect all come with costs, both direct and
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indirect.
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Exiting a job can result in the loss of income and health benefits;
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divorcing a spouse can result in emotional and financial distress;
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leaving a church can result in spiritual and social isolation.
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Raising your voice at work could create rancor with your boss; speaking
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up in a marriage could create resentment with your spouse.
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Whether you’re exiting or using your voice, there can also be a loss in
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the thing humans hold most dear: status. In leaving or dissenting, you
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risk jeopardizing your identity.
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Staying loyal to a relationship or organization comes with costs, too.
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If you keep your job in a toxic office, you’ll have to continue to
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weather the stress and debasement that comes with going to work each
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day. Same thing with staying in a struggling, conflict-ridden marriage
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or church.
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If you decide to be neglectful in your job, it could result in
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discipline or blocked opportunities. Neglect in a marriage will only
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lead to increased resentment and tension.
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The exit option tends to have the most dramatic consequences, and is
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thus much more reluctantly exercised and typically used as a last
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resort.
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But there’s no option in the EVLN framework that doesn’t carry
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downsides; each has its own pros and cons, and part of how people weigh
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their choices comes down to which path they think has more of the
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former and less of the latter.
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Efficacy of the Response
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In deciding between exit, voice, loyalty, and neglect, people will also
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consider which response will be the most effective at resolving their
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dissatisfaction.
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A big factor in whether someone thinks a particular response will be
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effective is whether they believe there’s hope for improvement. If
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someone has this hope, they’re more likely to choose voice or loyalty;
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if they don’t, they’re more likely to choose exit or neglect. If an
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unhappy employee thinks things would be a lot better at work if their
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supervisor moved on, and there’s a rumor they’ll soon be replaced, the
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employee is more likely to stick around. If a church member thinks
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their concerns will be listened to and addressed, they’re more likely
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to stay and raise their voice; if they think their concerns will be
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dismissed, they’re more likely to leave.
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A significant element in whether someone has hope for a better future
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is their prior satisfaction with the group or relationship. If
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someone’s marriage is struggling now, but was great for the first
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decade, they’re more apt to keep working on it and believe there’s a
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chance of returning to those happier times. If someone’s marriage was
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rocky from the start, they’re more likely to choose divorce.
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Internal vs. External Locus of Control
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If an individual has an internal locus of control, they’re more likely
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to choose a response that’s proactive. That is, if they believe they
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have control over their actions and outcomes, they’re more likely to
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use voice or exit.
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Someone who has an external locus of control — a belief that their life
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is controlled by external circumstances — is more likely to passively
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endure a bad situation (loyalty or neglect).
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Attractiveness of Alternatives
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If someone feels like there are better options outside their current
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job/relationship/church, they’re more likely to leave.
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If someone’s in a job they dislike and has been fielding hiring
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interest from another employer, they’re more likely to quit.
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If, on the other hand, someone feels they won’t be able to do much
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better in an alternate situation, they’re more likely to exercise the
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options of voice, loyalty, and neglect.
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An individual who’s sixty and in a so-so marriage may not feel bullish
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about their prospects of finding another partner and decide they’d
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rather be with someone, anyone, than alone.
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Commitment
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The decision to go, stay, or otherwise is also rooted in one’s inner
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values.
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Someone in an unhappy marriage who’s deeply committed to the sanctity
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of the marriage vow is more likely to choose therapy over divorce.
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Someone who is disturbed by recent trends in their church but deeply
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believes in the tenets of their faith is more likely to stay than
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exit.
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Someone who prizes loyalty will stay longer in a job they dislike than
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someone who doesn’t.
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Will Someone Choose Exit, Voice, Loyalty, or Neglect?
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In a series of studies, Withey and Cooper used the above factors to
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create a rubric that helps predict which response a dissatisfied
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employee will use. It likely carries over to people dissatisfied with
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other situations as well:
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Exit More Likely When:
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* costs of exit are low
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* costs of voice are high
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* prior satisfaction is low
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* belief in improvement is low
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* commitment is low
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* attractive alternatives are available
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* individual has an internal locus of control
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Voice More Likely When:
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* costs of exit are high
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* costs of voice are low
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* prior satisfaction is high
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* belief in improvement is high
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* commitment is high
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* attractive alternatives are not available
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* individual has an internal locus of control
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Loyalty More Likely When:
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* costs of exit are high
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* costs of voice are high
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* prior satisfaction is high
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* belief in the likelihood of improvement is high
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* commitment is high
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* attractive alternatives are not available
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* individual has an external locus of control
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Neglect More Likely When:
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* costs of exit are high
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* costs of voice are high
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* prior satisfaction is low
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* belief in the likelihood of improvement is low
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* commitment is low
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* attractive alternatives are not available
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* individual has an external locus of control
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Something that Withey and Cooper didn’t explore, but Hirschman did, is
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the phenomenon of people who exercise the option of exit and voice.
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Hirschman argued that you see people use both exit and voice in
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situations where even if they leave a group due to dissatisfaction,
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they’re still affected by the group’s actions.
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church or religion. They may leave a faith, but they still have friends
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even if they no longer practice it. At the same time, an individual who
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leaves a religion may feel that the religion damaged them somehow, and,
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though they have removed themselves from its direct influence, they
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don’t want to see other people get hurt in the same way.
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As I mentioned at the start, once I learned about the exit, voice,
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loyalty, and neglect paradigm, I started to see it everywhere. If
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dissatisfying experience the way they do. If you’re in a bad
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If you’re a leader in a church, it can help you figure out why some
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struggle: If a group loses enough good people, it’s apt to enter a
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